When people think about divorce, It’s natural for them to assume that there is a major, dramatic reason for the split. Examples include things like extramarital affairs or financial infidelity.
But what often happens is just that couples drift apart. They were in love when they got married, but the relationship slowly changed over time and they lost that connection. Since it’s helpful to plan for divorce in advance, here are some red flags that may mean this is happening in your relationship.
You don’t have anything to talk about
Some couples say that they start feeling like roommates. You and your spouse may not have anything to talk about and you may not enjoy spending time together. You essentially just feel like you are two strangers who share the same living space, but not much else.
You prefer to spend time with others
In some cases, you’ll notice that you and your spouse prefer spending time at work or going out separately with your friends. Of course, having time alone is not a bad thing, even for couples who are in dedicated relationships. But if you’d prefer to be with others instead of your spouse, it could indicate that something is wrong with that relationship.
Your arguments change
In some cases, arguments become more frequent because of the friction in the relationship. Every little issue becomes a fight.
In other cases, the arguing actually stops. This is because one person is checked out of the relationship and so they are no longer emotionally invested in “winning” the argument.
Ending your marriage
Have you spotted some of these red flags in your relationship? If you get a divorce, carefully consider the legal steps you’ll need to take.
